When parents take the time out to do little things for their children, it leaves a lasting impact on their children. Years later, their kid will grow up with the fondest memories to look back on. Case in point - look back to your childhood and flip through the memory book. You might reminisce flashbacks of the little things your parents did for you that made your childhood a fun experience. You might have fond memories of playing in parks, going out on picnics, taking trips, and going out to eat at restaurants.
Every child has an innate psychological need to feel special, loved, cared for, noticed, and appreciated by their parents. Your child will appreciate it when you take the time to go out of your way and do something special for them. This could be anything, like surprising them with their favourite treats, taking them to the park, or buying their favourite ice cream. Your children will remember these little acts of kindness and take it as a confirmation ticket that you love, appreciate, and care for them immensely. Even though they already know it, these little gestures you do will reinforce their belief, boost their self-esteem, and teach them life skills. Little children enjoy the simplest things in life and we’ve listed out a few of them that will put a smile on their faces.
- Time and attention: Children need love and attention from their parents. It is a basic need for them and they can feel neglected and lonely if they don’t receive it from their primary caregivers. Set aside some time during the day and spend some quality time with your child, make sure that you’re giving them your full attention during this time.
- Support and encouragement: Children need to know that their parents are in their corner, supporting them no matter what. They need to know that you believe in them and will support them when they pursue their interests and passions along the way.
- Discipline and boundaries: Children need a daily routine to form and adopt good habits in their lives. They also need to learn about boundaries and develop the discipline to learn right from wrong and develop a good sense of self-control. Don’t be afraid to lay down the law with them and set rules, let them know that there are consequences for breaking these rules.
- Shower them with love and affection: Hug your child and tell them you love them daily. Pamper your child with gifts for their good behaviour, or take them out to get their favourite restaurant and spend some quality time with them. If they accomplish something or get good marks on a test, you can even take them to the park as a reward for their good behaviour.
- Consistency: Children need strict systems and consistency to thrive, it helps them manage their time effectively and teaches them life skills. Set a schedule for meals, study time, bedtime, and playtime, develop a strict routine and try to stick to it. Lay down the law and let them know that there are consequences for breaking these routines.
- Flexibility: While consistency and routines are vital, it's equally important to teach them how to adapt to change and the best way to teach them is by example. Open your mind to try new things and adapt to unexpected situations whenever they arise.
- Trust and honesty: Even though you are the authoritative figure in their life, you need to be approachable enough for your child to come to you whenever they do something wrong. Create a safe space for your child to come to you, confide in you and encourage them to be honest with you. Children need to know that they can trust their parents and that they don’t need to hide their wrongdoings from them.
- Independence: As children grow up, they need to learn how to be more independent and take on more responsibilities. Encourage them to try new things, make their own little decisions, and take responsibility for their actions.
- Forgiveness: Children are constantly learning and they will make many mistakes as they learn and grow. They might hurt people's feelings and get hurt by others too. Teach them to seek forgiveness, accept it from others and most importantly - teach them to apologise when they’ve done something wrong. As a parent, you should apologise to your child whenever you’ve made a mistake, this will teach them the value of humility and encourage them to own up for their bad behaviour.
- Patience: Children take time to learn, develop and understand things. Parents need to be patient and understanding with their children, especially when they make mistakes, and learn from them. Know that your child is doing their level best and that they want to make you feel proud of them.
Conclusion:To sum up this piece, you and your child are on a learning pathway. We hope these pointers will help you navigate the difficult hurdles life will lead you through. We leave you with this quote “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will live its whole life believing that it's stupid”.